STOP BODY SHAMING!
This is a passionate topic for me. Body shaming. Yourself, your children, your co workers and even a stranger on the street. Stop doing it.
I have had this discussion with a few of my close friends over the years. It’s always the same. Their mothers body shamed themselves in front of them. Now, I’m not trying to call my mama out, but she is guilty of it too. I don’t know what the time was like when they grew up and if their mothers did the same. I’m sure they did and it seems like it was just passed on. Body shaming gets passed on. When did it become an acceptable thing to do?
I have two beautiful little girls. After my first was born, I was a mess. Struggling with postpartum depression, high blood pressure and I was insanely swollen. I didn’t love myself. I went from a 21 year old girl who was comfortable in her skin, to a 21 year old first time mom who hated everything that her body had done during pregnancy. I moped about it. I didn’t change it. It just got worse and to the point it was dragging my husband down. He has ALWAYS, I mean ALWAYS made me feel like I was the most beautiful woman in the world. I just couldn’t get out of a slump to believe him or fix it. It took me seeing myself in a bridesmaids dress I wore in my sisters wedding to realize complaining about something is not going to fix it. My oldest was over one by now. Still not understanding what I was talking about (thankfully).
I love Pinterest and soon after I stumbled upon a picture of a little girl standing on a scale and a caption that said “Don’t let her think like this” THAT really spoke to me. I promised, that moment, I would never body shame myself, especially in front of my girls.
I changed my attitude, my words and my lifestyle. I’m sure every person reading this has been on a diet or is looking for the next best weight loss plan. It comes with many emotions and when it doesn’t deliver the results you are looking for, you start shaming yourself. Stop it!
My sweet girls are 5 and 2 now. I’ve learned so many things since becoming a mommy. One of those things is how brutally honest they can be. My 5 year old often reminds me that my “tummy is squishy like play-doh” and my response is always- “I love it because it reminds me of when I carried you in there. You used to move around so much and you kept growing and growing until you were big enough to be born.” She loves hearing about being in my tummy. What’s more important is she will remember me loving myself, and telling her how special it is to me that I was able to carry her. I never want to make them feel insecure. It changes things for my daughters because I will NOT say anything negative about how my body looks.
My 5 year old had a doctors appointment not too long ago and the doctor made a comment about her percentiles. “It’s ok, kids are made differently and she’s just petite and skinny” later that day she came to me and she seemed upset. She said “Mama, I’m not skinny, the doctor said I was skinny” she’s 5 and she felt the hurt of being labeled by her body type. Yes, they do pay attention and they do understand as young as 5 years old. I took this opportunity to tell her that she was perfect because God made her. He took his time making her and that we are all so special because God created us.
Body shaming can be passed on and it can leave emotional damage. Girls look up to their mothers. I have two girls that count on me. What I teach them about themselves is important. When my girls look at me I want them to remember that I loved myself. I refuse to pass body shaming on to them. Be careful of the words you use to describe yourself.
Stop body shaming. Stop passing it on to your kids, especially your girls. If you body shame others, shame on you. Share with them how perfect God made them. They are created so special and so are you.
I will give thanks unto thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: Wonderful are thy works; And that my soul knoweth right well. (Psalm 139:14 ASV)